Pete, United States

"Every day I feel more and more like myself."

Was there a definitive moment you realized you were trans? How old were you?

It was a pretty quick process actually. I had just turned 15 and had just learned about trans people. I realized I related to those feelings an almost alarming amount, so that summer at summer camp I asked my friends if they would call me by a name I had picked and he/him. The first time someone did, I knew immediately I wanted everyone to do that forever. I'm 24 now and it still gives me that giddy feeling every time.

How soon after did you start to make changes? What were these changes?

My friends and family knew when I was 15 but I changed my name to everyone at school when I was 16. I also started going to a gender therapist so I could start the process to get on testosterone.

Have these changes started to make you feel more comfortable in your life and body?

Absolutely! I've been on testosterone for 7 years now and I've had top surgery for 6, hysterectomy a year and a half. Every day I feel more and more like myself.

What would you tell your younger self? Would you do anything differently?

I would tell him that mom will come around eventually. I wouldn't do anything differently.

Is there anything else you'd like to share?

You don't need to know when you're 3. If you switch back and forth between labels, that's okay too. Just because I've used he/him the whole times doesn't mean that's everyone's trans masc experience. When you find the label/pronouns that work for you, it's okay if it's only the best for a short time. People change and it's okay not to know yet, or to change your mind.

Have the gender-affirming steps you’ve taken impacted your overall happiness and sense of well-being?

Yes.