Charlie, United Kingdom (he/him)

“One day you will be happy."

Was there a definitive moment you realized you were trans? How old were you?

I was 11 when I first knew something was up and I was definitely sure at 13.

How soon after did you start to make changes? What were these changes?

The first thing I did wasn’t healthy but the first significant step for me was cutting my hair and telling my parents (even if they don’t agree) and telling a friend.

Have these changes started to make you feel more comfortable in your life and body?

Yes, definitely. There is still things I wish I could do, but I will be able to one day.

What would you tell your younger self? Would you do anything differently?

I would tell him that it’s okay, not to do things to yourself not because you’ll regret it but because you were wrong. There is a life for you and all you have to do I want it. I would tell him that I might hate him for a while but one day I will love him.

Is there anything else you'd like to share?

If you feel like giving up, don’t. I know that it sounds hard, trust me, I’ve tried but one day you will be happy. And if that day comes and you’re still sad then that means you’re not there yet, so keep going because it’s coming soon.

Have the gender-affirming steps you’ve taken impacted your overall happiness and sense of well-being?

Yes.