JLM, United States (he/they)

“I'm so comfortable with myself, I can't imagine any other life.“

Was there a definitive moment you realized you were trans? How old were you?

I was 14 years old on Tumblr and learned about gender identities outside of the traditional gender binary via people I followed -- It helped me realize I could explore other options for my identity, rather than accepting one that I wasn't happy living with.

How soon after did you start to make changes? What were these changes?

It was over time -- Initially, at 14, I started to experiment with having my friends call me different names. I tried coming out to my mom at that age, but it wasn't the right time to start making changes within my family. My friends were my main support system, in terms of my gender exploration, for about 5 years.

It took until I turned 19 to start my medical transition. I started testosterone injections and welcomed the changes to my body. At 21 I got top surgery and have never felt better.

Have these changes started to make you feel more comfortable in your life and body?

It's like I've always been this way. I'm so comfortable with myself, I can't imagine any other life.

What would you tell your younger self? Would you do anything differently?

It'll be okay. Your patience is one of the strongest skills you have. Trust yourself and stay confident.

Do you have a favorite/funny transition moment?

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Is there anything else you'd like to share?

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Have the gender-affirming steps you’ve taken impacted your overall happiness and sense of well-being?

Yes.