L, Canada (he/him)

“You'll figure it out, give it time. Just try not to be so angry :)"

Was there a definitive moment you realized you were trans? How old were you?

I was asking "gender" questions of myself since a very young age, but I didn't realize I was "trans" until I was 24. I started off as non-transitioning nonbinary person, but realized I was a trans man at 28 and needed to transition.

How soon after did you start to make changes? What were these changes?

I started by making myself more androgynous, stopped using makeup, and grew out armpit hair in late 20s. At 30 I started testosterone, at 33 I had top surgery, and am now on the waitlist for phalloplasty.

Have these changes started to make you feel more comfortable in your life and body?

YES. My mind cleared, my emotions settled, my attachment style became secure, and I realized my real romantic and sexual orientation. I've started exercising for the first time in my life and am the healthiest and strongest I've ever been in my life.

What would you tell your younger self? Would you do anything differently?

You'll figure it out, give it time. Just try not to be so angry :)

Is there anything else you'd like to share?

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Have the gender-affirming steps you’ve taken impacted your overall happiness and sense of well-being?

Yes.